A rough copy of the html for Alt.com's "basic information" (Marital status: single, and so on) is here (don't try to click on the "Edit" it won't work) As to the substance of what I say, here is my recent Alt Profile:
[STANDARD MEMBERS CAN VIEW & CONTACT ME. Update: Apparently you can only view my first photo; send 'waive' to get pics of me in swim trunks at beach My Blog: Reflections / Fear of the Dark Or Leave me a private message here via my Blog.
Beautiful, poetic, and true words;
I'm an attractive, slim, fit, successful and secure
SWPM, non-smoker, who is drug and disease free (I also don't drink but
it's perfectly ok if you drink moderately) who takes care of
himself. I am looking for friendship connections and conversation
first.
Enjoy emotional intimacy; when the time is right, cuddling, and giving
massage (non-sexual but sensuous/sensual relaxation, or building to
erotic) enjoy giving in many other ways, physically but also
emotionally and mentally to the woman, investing in the relationship
Looking for a special woman who is also giving (in all the above ways,
not just physically), who is not a player or just a taker, who
understands that giving fully means much more than physically, who is
looking for more than a physical thrill, who also seeks additionally
to the physical, the deeper, meaningful, powerful connections and the
powerful psychological states and emotional places where D/s can take
us within a space where you are comfortable being vulnerable, after
you have known me enough so that trust has been built.
I am an experienced, empathetic (and thus gentle when appropriate) but
intense Dom (I speak mostly of non-physical intensity, but if on the
physical side you truly need something more intense than we have
explored, I'm certainly capable of increasing intensity there too..so
long as it's not 'edgeplay' ) I'm equally, a guide/teacher skillful
at understanding the psychology and emotions of women's inner
needs. These vary depending on the woman, of course, but the magic
happens through a dance-like back and forth process of delving into
and getting to know your inner erotic world, it's tensions, triggers,
apparitions, contradictions, and pathways to release, healing, and
catharsis.
There is no contradiction between being the Dom, being in control,
versus putting the sub's inner needs at the heart and center as I do,
for it is her reactions - including the physical but primarily the
non-physical - which, in fluid but careful relation to her adroit,
passionate, but empathic Dom, form the foundation for the D/s
exchange, including for
what is most satisfying for him.
Open and honest two-way COMMUNICATION is central and
critical before, during, and after, for physical and non-physical
safety, as well as for the deep fulfillment possible through this
path.
Though I am a natural mentor in control of himself who can help you
grow, this, too, is a two-way street. Paradoxically, the sub must on
at least the level of the basics, be a "master" of herself. In other
words, if your own life is in chaos, or a constant roller coaster
ride, I wish you well, but please stay away, or find someone else.
In other words:
To put it differently: have you heard of the "slow
food movement"? That is a closer analog to where I am coming from,
as far as D/s goes, as opposed to the "fast lane" type..I won't call
it the "fast food" kind, which may be a bit unfair to those whose
KINMK (Kink is not my kink) The fast-laners would disapprove of my
less expansive collection of toys (far less than 100) and lack of
skills in the fancier areas of D/s (advanced decorative bondage and so
on)..this has never held me back with the kind of woman and
relationship I value, however.
In fact, my first time practicing D/s the words of that particular
woman...who herself had a LOT of experience in vanilla sex and some in
D/s and who was bi and experienced with both women and men..her words
were, "you know things about women and their response and
psychology, that I thought only women knew." Yes, those were her
words. And that was at a time when my own past experiences with women
was much more limited. It's not as though I've had a huge number of
partners, I haven't ("I'm not that kind of guy!") but I have
significantly more experience today, than I did back then.
So which is it? To, to some sensation-play focused fast-lane S&Mers,
I'd be considered a Dom of quite 'modest' experience, and skills
(sorry, haven't learned intricate advanced "art" bondage or how to use
a bull-whip and don't expect I ever will..I am also not into club type
"scening", as you might have guessed) but as the quote above is only
one small example of, in fact I possess a relatively rare ability in
the realm of the slow, sensuous, physical D/s that is used as a
pathway towards the inner forbidden world of the erotic
psyche.
I want to add here that the latter philosophy (mine)
includes pain as a means but not as an ends, or to say 'pain yes, but
not suffering' or to say 'erotic humiliation? yes, degradation? never'
- however, to each person those words might mean something different,
so such things might best be clarified in one on one communication.
Though skilled at giving physical pleasure (when earned..) my
specialty is in working at the emotional and psychological level for
release the sub equally needs and craves, while promoting growth in
that area as well.
I'm a very giving person...and enjoy to get to know you first before
we connect physically. I have gentle, skilled, loving hands, and know
how to give a nice massage, be it a back-rub or a luxurious slow
whole-body massage that takes you from away from life's worries
towards relaxation, and slowly from relaxation to arousal. In fact
this may be one of my 'flaws' - unless with a very giving sub, I may
offer more such massages etc than the number of times I instruct that
I be given one. You need to be able to be ok if/when that happens and
your body is at center stage; but also I'm hoping you have intuition
to offer, when appropriate, even without being directly ordered
ordered to.
If you have any questions, drop me a note. Interested in dialog rather
than potential relationship? Just say that up front. Same if you are
bi/switch, currently asexual, been burned in the past, or abused as
adult or child, etc, if/when you are ready to share more.
UPDATE: Working on restarting my personal website which has several
erotic D/s stories I've written plus some D/s philosophical outlook
and emails from my readers including a romance writer doing research
who changed her mind about D/s from negative, after seeing my
website..Happy to send you the url of my personal (noncommercial, I
just anonymously registered the domain name) website...just drop me a
note, ask, even if you're not seeking relationship..
(Final note: some fields like 'endowment' which I filled in years ago
seem a bit too mechanical or tacky, but System hasn't, so far, allowed
me to make those questions invisible, and putting 'prefer not to say'
would only look stranger..just fyi, that if it were up to me I'd not
advertise so loudly such things for first impression readers but am
stuck with it for now..)
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any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will
be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal
ramifications.
My blog on Alt is called "Fear of the Dark /
Reflections" a link follows: [Link to my Alt blog] See especially the post
"Fear of the
And My profile pictures on Alt:
The abstract, symbolic default image. Second, this beach trunks torso image, and third and last, a somewhat more revealing version of the preceding.
If you and I get to that point, and you wish to see a just a bit more revealing body with about one inch lower on the trunks, trusted female friends as well as those exploring "more than friends" with me can ask for the url. I joked on Alt how the internet lets Male Doms get that "should I really be doing this" feeling previously reserved for younger gals on myspace! (But already had trusted female pals review those to help me chose which to include) All self-photos taken summers of 2012 and 2011.